• @Rhoeri@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Wha kind of stupid shit is this? Full stops in texts is passive aggressive?

    How is that even done?

    And how is it construed as passive aggressive? What kind of fucking idiot thought this up?

  • newtraditionalists
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    03 months ago

    Man, that must suck to be so incredibly insecure that you project your need for constant validation on to, quite literally, the most innocuous thing.

  • @not_that_guy05@lemmy.world
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    04 months ago

    I heard something about adding periods is being serious in text.

    Never understood that. I rarely do acronym in my text as well.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮
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    04 months ago

    I prefer using the rules we all established and should have learned as children to communicate via text, which includes ending a sentence with a period unless it’s an exclamation or a question.

  • @volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz
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    03 months ago

    🙂 is only sent by psychopaths who are already planning out your murder

    If absolutely necessary use 🙃 or 🤗 instead

  • @BradleyUffner@lemmy.world
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    03 months ago

    The last time I was dating someone, she texted me to ask if we were still on for our date the next day. I replied with a thumbs up emoji and some additional text saying I was excited about seeing her again.

    When we got together for the date, she asked if I was mad at her about something. I didn’t understand, so I asked why she would think that. She explained that the thumbs up emoji is used as a passive aggressive insult now.

    👍

    • @pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip
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      She explained that the thumbs up emoji is used as a passive aggressive insult now.

      She needs better friends. That sounds exhausting.

      • @BradleyUffner@lemmy.world
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        I think she picked it up from her students. She’s a professor at a university, so is hooked in a little bit more to the Gen Z culture. Unfortunately she can’t just replace her students, as much as she’d like to sometimes 🙂

    • kadu
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      If we mix OP and your comment together:

      👍.

      Is violently aggressive

  • @87Six@lemmy.zip
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    03 months ago

    I’m tired of people reading text from me, interpreting emotions that don’t exist, then getting mad at me for it.

  • @tomi000@lemmy.world
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    03 months ago

    Damn how old is the average Lemmy user? The amount of people (allegedly) using and expecting perfect punctuation when texting scares me. I never put periods after one-liners except for nuance and if someone else does it looks weird. Depends on the person obviously, for example when my mom texts me I know I shouldnt put much thought into such details.

    • @RalphFurley@lemmy.world
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      I assume we’re all over 40.

      Seems weird to me too, I first started texting around 2005 when I finally got a cell phone. When I saw full punctuation I felt like I was getting scolded.

      • @Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        03 months ago

        My parents or rarely messaged folks precede a message by “Hey [my name], <br> (Actual message content)”.

        It kinda tilts me as it’s a chat and not an email and I dislike the mixing of those two medium

        • @Trainguyrom@reddthat.com
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          03 months ago

          If it’s my first message to someone or first message in a long time I’ll start by saying who I am just in case they’ve changed numbers or lost my contact info or whatever. But obviously I’m not going to do that every few weeks/months

          • @Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            03 months ago

            That’s reasonable.
            My dad doesnt do that and preceeds every message chain with a greeting.
            He doesnt do it in a short term context but if a message is longer than (feels like 3 weeks), there will be a greeting.

            Not infuriating but it does kinda grind my gears ;)

  • @early_riser@lemmy.world
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    03 months ago

    Perhaps related, but when communicating over the radio (including via digital printing modes like RTTY) you have to declare that you’re done transmitting and yield the frequency to the other party. This is because your signal may fade, appearing to the other person like you stopped transmitting. This is the purpose of the ubiquitous “over” seen in movies and TV, though in ham circles you use the more casual “go ahead” or “back to you”.

    I imagine a period sends the same message, but because you don’t have to manage turn-taking with texts the way you do on the radio the period can be seen as redundant because they already know you’re done speaking. So sending a period may seem like you’re emphasizing the finality of your message.

    In radio, you signal the end of a contact (QSO) with “out”, but again, in ham circles you just say “73”.

    Is any of this relevant? I have no idea I’ve been up since 1 AM this morning.

    • @tal@lemmy.today
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      I’ve never heard of OP’s convention. But if I had to guess, it’s this:

      • It’s slow to input text on an onscreen keyboard compared to a physical one.

      • Mobile vendors try to reduce the number of keystrokes via predictive text and other tweaks in their onscreen keyboard software.

      • One common optimization (which I do not like and have off) is to try to reduce the effort to terminate a a sentence.

      • On iOS’s keyboard, tapping space twice inserts a period, then space. This is an easy action to perform.

      • I would assume that many iOS users are thus trained to only terminate sentences this way, and not to explicitly use periods. A trailing period requires extra effort and an unusual keystroke.

      • As a result, iOS users tend not to put in the extra effort, and so their sentences tend not to have a trailing period if not followed by a subsequent sentence.

      • For these users, the norm then becomes to omit a period on the final sentence, and so explicitly adding it looks like the user has gone out of their way to specially add punctuation. The trailing period then acquires semantic value, meaning.

      I expect that the whole thing stemmed from some random engineer at Apple just banging away trying to get average typing speed up, not spending a lot of time thinking about any linguistic or social impact.

      It could also be that Microsoft or Google do that by default — but I donlt use their default onscreen keyboards, and the descriptions I can find online of their default behavior sounds like they don’t.

  • @supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz
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    I think it is honestly really pathetic that so many of you claim to love language and yet what you really love is having a rigid form of interaction that you can shame people for not perfectly following or reacting intuitively to.

    Language is ALWAYS a negotiation, if you dismiss people that interpret your sentences without a period as passive-aggressive, YOU are the one that loses because you have undermined the basic premise of communicating with others in favor of the comforting idea that there are a perfect set of unchanging abstract rules that can be applied to communication that delineate a “correct” way to do things.

    There are no rules to language, language is not decided by a committee, langauge is a living breathing thing that does not give a fuck about your condescending attempt to lock it in stone and direct it towards being used as a tool to shame others with.

    You don’t get to decide what people react to and don’t react to in your language.

    • @volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz
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      03 months ago

      I agree so much and I love it. I love texting. I love adjusting my language and tone to fit the social setting I am in. Or break it on purpose. And it’s so incredible that just by texting a person you’ve just recently made contact with you can find out soo much about their social setting, life, their circles and beliefs and attitudes. The closer I get to people the more memes and stickers I use to communicate. And usually by their choice of memes and stickers tell me a lot about them too.

      Language is amazeballs. I sincerely hope that when my daughter grows up she will be able to switch to the most insane gibberish that will sound like random ass code to me when talking to her friends. And hopefully switch back to be understandable when talking with me.

    • Saving this for the next time I could you use scathing takedown.

      As the other person says it’s the same with new words and people looking down on the next generation like theirs didn’t do the same. I love that language evolves, always something to learn. Better than shouting at clouds, which should be Lemmy’s tagline.

    • @ApollosArrow@lemmy.world
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      Thank you! It’s sad this comment is so far down. This has been one of the most confusing group of responses I’ve read on the fediverse so far. So many angry and unmovable people who sound like they don’t communicate with humans.

    • @Schlemmy@lemmy.ml
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      Yes! Preach! Same with new words. Every generation gets angry with the next generation using new words but you don’t get to decide how I use words. I will adhere to certain rules so we can keep understanding each other but all the members of the commission will have to be willing to rewrite the rules if the language has changed.

    • @BranBucket@lemmy.world
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      Oddly enough, I don’t claim to really love language for the sake of language, but it’s pretty useful in my day to day so I try to use it well. I like your post, so, in the spirit of negotiation let’s use the term baseline instead of rules.

      The bulk of educational and informational works on the English language gives us a kind of baseline for our written language. When someone deviates from that baseline, most of the time we can still understand them because we can see how it differs and can infer their intent based on context and that baseline.

      The dictionaries, style guides, and grammar texts that give us our baseline exist to facilitate written communication, not stifle it. They’re the result of hundreds of years of these kinds of negotiations, not just arbitrary choice as so many people claim. Good grammar isn’t just a cudgel to beat the creativity out of kids, it’s the benefit of centuries’ worth of experience and study. Just as new ideas shouldn’t be dismissed out of hand, we also shouldn’t disregard past practice simply on the basis of it’s age.

      Baselines do change. But it’s a slow process, not every popular new deviation will stand the test of time, and many antique forms are still present in our modern language. Think of it like scientific progress. Some ideas are validated by experimentation, others are proven wrong. Our understanding of the universe is more complex now than centuries ago, but there are still numerous constants that have been proven time after time. Our language has grown more complex too, but that doesn’t mean that some very old ideas about how to communicate in writing aren’t still useful today.

      But you’re very, very right about shame and reactions, and I’d be dishonest not to admit that. It’s too easy for armchair grammarians to treat language as if it exists in a logic vacuum separate from human emotion, and that’s simply not the case.

      Omitting a period from a text isn’t a crime, I freely admit that I’m often a grumpy old asshole about this sort of thing when I shouldn’t be, and you’re 100% correct that people shouldn’t be shamed over it.

      At the same time, the reverse is also true. Not every plea for punctuation and grammar is creative or ideological tyranny, and if some people react poorly to a text that omits punctuation, that’s not something the author has a say in either.

      At any rate, I hope this comes of as intended, a genuine, if overly lengthy explanation from someone who supports the widespread use of punctuation, and not just Grandpa Simpson yelling at a cloud. =)

  • @BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
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    03 months ago

    So “full stop” means a Period, right? A period is a period, PERIOD. That’s all it is. It ends a sentence, so you start a new one. It doesn’t contain any emotional ammunition. It certainly isnt passive aggressive, that’s just stupid.

    What’s next? Are we going to start debating the tyranny of the comma, or the righteous indignation of the semi-colon?

    Or maybe we should be debating the infiltration of our written communications by Big Emoji? They’re obviously behind all of this, trying to encourage more emoji use, to stuff their coffers with that sweet emoji revenue.

    Calm the fuck down, people.

    • @pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip
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      So “full stop” means a Period, right? A period is a period, PERIOD. That’s all it is. It ends a sentence, so you start a new one. It doesn’t contain any emotional ammunition. It certainly isnt passive aggressive, that’s just stupid.

      .

      Spoiler: I agree with you.

    • @fishos@lemmy.world
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      03 months ago

      It’s really only a “full stop” when it’s the last or only sentence, not just any sentence with a period. It’s related to phones only adding the period if you hit space twice. So by default, single sentences never have it because you don’t continue typing. So actually putting it in is intentional for many people and they are in fact making a statement akin to “this is my final word on the matter”.

      It’s the difference between

      “Can you help me with this?” “No”

      And

      “Can you help me with this?” “No.”

      That extra “.” after “No” wasn’t strictly necessary, so by including it on purpose, you’re making a statement. That’s the general thought process going on with people who find it passive aggressive.

      You can also go back even further to T9 typing and texting shorthand and see that punctuation was largely ignored due to message size limitations and difficulties typing on a phone in general. It’s something that has evolved over time due to the medium. The main issue is people who have gone through this transition see it one way, and people who are used to more formal writing suddenly joining the internet see it another way. I would say it’s more like regional accents. Both are correct depending on context.

      • @Furbag@lemmy.world
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        The only reason your phone doesn’t add the punctuation in for you like it does the automatic capitalization of the first letter is because it can’t tell when you’ve finished your complete thought.

        I’ll never let lazy cunts tell me I’m being passive aggressive for using goddamn proper punctuation. I’ll be actively aggressive about that.

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        Can anybody in this thread who actively omits periods in texts specifically because of the negative connotations explain to me why they think that having that be a normal convention is actually good?

        Like, why would anybody want an option to sign off their texts with a passive aggressive slant? I can’t wrap my head around it.

        The firm believers in the whole “language is constantly evolving and has no rules” thing would probably not like it if future generations decided fuck using punctuation altogether. No commas, no questions marks, no paragraph breaks. It’s easier for them because they normally communicate in five dimensional haptic virtual reality where punctuation is an anachronistic holdover. How come you aren’t on board with their wacky language rules?

        I don’t give a shit if you don’t use punctuation in texts or not, that’s entirely on you and I don’t judge people for using shortcuts, but fuck if I’m going to let someone tell me using a period to end my sentences indicates anything other than “I have finished my thought / I have finished speaking.”.

        • @Brosplosion@lemmy.zip
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          Because it can signal annoyance? It’s almost like having more possible meanings adds depth to conversation. The end of a text is already final enough, so a period doesn’t add any functionality that way unless you somehow believe someone got raptured mid sentence and still hit send.

          It’s like if you asked someone, “How are you?” And they said “I’m fine” or “I’m fine.” or “I’m fine!” or “I’m fine?” or “I’m fine…”

          It signals different connotations and tones for all five. Period is no longer default since they aren’t required, so they have taken on additional meaning

      • @BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
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        Nope, you end a sentence with period. Period. That’s just basic punctuation, like starting a sentence with a capital letter.

        • @fishos@lemmy.world
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          Look, I explained how it developed and why it’s used that way. I also explained the difference between a “full stop” and a “period”. If your reading comprehension is that terrible, maybe don’t get involved in discussions about linguistics because it clearly went right over your simple minded little head.

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            I have excellent reading comprehension skills, and I understand everything you wrote, and I stand by my response.

            And I said it without being a prick, too.

            • @masterspace@lemmy.ca
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              No, you were a prick who talked past them.

              They very clearly and calmly explained the dynamics of both sides of this debate, and you responded by inanely reiterating your original point which they obviously already understood.

              • @BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
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                I’m not “talking past” anyone, I was simply reiterating my basic point, which is all that needs to be said. He can talk all he wants, and it still doesn’t change the basic fact that a sentence should always ends with a Period (or some other punctuation), no matter what common usage at the time.

                And more importantly, the idea that a Period carries emotional baggage like Passive Aggression is silly, and self-indulgent. Nobody should have to think about you that much that they should worry whether you’ll be offended by a period. If you require that much emotional maintenance that it extends to punctuation, then you are just a giant pain in the ass to everyone around you, and you need to grow up and get a life.

                • @masterspace@lemmy.ca
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                  03 months ago

                  Lmao, you keep acting like other people perceiving you as an asshole is a them problem when it is literally just a you problem.

                  It’s been 30 fucking years, learn how to text.