There is this girl I like, in my dancing class. I want to know if we connect on other levels. I don’t want to straight up ask her what her hobbies are. I want to make it feel natural. Believe me, this makes sense within the context.
We usually talk a little bit before the class starts. So that’s really the best opportunity to ask.
Anyone I have ever known will mentions their hobbies and interests overtime when talking in general.
“What have you been up to lately?”[wait to see if they mention their hobby].
“I’ve been [insert your hobbies here]. Have you ever tried it?”
“No? Well what do you like to do for fun? Oh I’ve tried that too/never done that.”
Nice! That ought to work. Thank you!
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I will, but I only see her about twice a week.
Just want to add. Don’t ask them a question, waiting with a prepared response to whatever they say. Go into the conversation with an idea of what you want to say, sure, but don’t ask someone a question you don’t intend to fully listen to the answer of in an attempt to make a smooth segue.
If you ask what she’s been doing lately, and she doesn’t happen to mention her hobbies, but she does engage the conversation with you and tells you about her week, day, whatever, make sure you’re present and listening, and don’t immediately blow her response off with, “well I do XYZ, ever try?”
You got this!
“dance has seemingly brought us both here, what else do you like to do with your free time?”
“what is your hobbies precious? Tells us you must!” Then screech like this: https://youtu.be/YtZLWaqHn10
I guess there’s room for a plan B.
“So what do you do for fun?”
If that’s too direct, just mention something fun you did recently and let them decide to respond in kind. If they don’t open up to you like that in the slightest, after you open up to them in such a small way, then you should just take the hint and go talk to someone else.
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True. But in my experience, people tend to engage a little better in the conversation if it feels more natural.
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Sooo… You too like furry femdom?
yo dawg, whatchu do for fun? Have you considered: me?
What could go wrong? 100% chance of success
“how do you spend your (free) time”?
If you’re interested to try to get to know this person, you can ask directly as others have mentioned. They might naturally interpret it as you hitting on them, if the ages and such are similar.
If you want to be cautious, small talk is fun and less direct. Mention something from the local community or last weekend or whatever. Talk about the weather.
While you talk about dance or anything else ask “Do you do anything else besides dance?”.
wait until she replies her hobby is answering questions on asklemmy
“we’re both on the spectrum, may I hit that?”
If you have a pet, casually mention it. People like to talk about their pets. Any bumper stickers on her car? Social media pics?
Be careful with the last two. Depending on context, these could come across as stalking.
Volunteer your hobbies and interests and see if she wants to learn more about any of them.
