My first long term relationship was with a woman who could orgasm from penetration in less than a minute.
Excessive alcohol consumption
Long, skinny stools. Turns out it was because of a precancerous blockage.
Hope you’re doing ok now!
They’re called bar stools smh
/jk
Being unable to think of something without a prompt.
I guess most people can just remember things without sticky notes and calendars.
What are you, an LLM?
I call myself mlm: mediocre language model
Hopefully not engaging in Multi Level Marketing
I teach you some words, and then you teach some words to your friends, and they teach some words to their friends…
AI trained on AI trained on AI trained on AI… Etc etc., quality degrading all the way down.
I might be. Give me a topic and I’ll spew out all sorts of obscure trivia, but until you mention it, I don’t know that any of it exists.
Is that a challenge? Tell me what you know about Living Card Games without looking it up!
So, “Living” card games doesn’t mean anything to me, but you did trigger card games in general, which could take me a while. I’ve probably spent a majority of my waking life playing Magic, Poker, Hearthstone, Silver, Smash up, and various other card games. Most recently, I’m obsessed with Balatro.
That being said…
Are you about to open a Pandoras box by making me look up Living Card Games?
Mate, if you’re into CCGs, you really missed out by not getting into LCGs! Android:Netrunner, a remake of the original Netrunner from the 90s is the absolute GOAT CG out there with a close second being the Doomtown:Reloaded (which I helped design). Basically it was CGs without the luck/gambling. Just get all the cards and make exactly all the decks you want.
Unfortunately Netrunner and Doomtown run out of steam half a decade ago, but they’re still developed by their fans, but usually the only way to play them consistently is online in places such as Jinteki.net. There’s a few others still in production, but iirc they’re co-operative ones, like Arkham Horror
Lol I played Wizard 101 with my kids. I had the most amazing solo life/balance deck.
I was maining the most jank exile /chess deck you’ve ever seen. I called it homeless kasparov
Linux
In high school, my friend ran Linux. I was over at his house and he had to go take a shit or something, and I was trying to see what games he had on his computer. When he got back he asked what the hell I did because he now has to reboot, and we’re going to have to watch it do that for the next half hour. And penguins and hats.
That’s pretty much everything I ever needed to know about Linux.
This is me to a large degree. Give me a cue and a whole encyclopedia is at your fingertips. Just say think of something and I’m at a loss.
You can actually train for this!
You can train yourself to become more attuned to your interoception. This will make it easier to identify internal prompts like anxiety or hunger. In fact, a friend of mine was studying to become a psychotherapist and last year had me serve as a guinea pig for interoception interventions. In summary, if you find mindfulness practices that involve your body and your own thoughts, you’ll be more attuned to your interoception. Things like active meditations can help a lot. You can check out evidence-based and peer-reviewed programs like Healthy Minds.
You can train yourself not just to notice your interoception, but also to use interoception to build habits. I suspect this is what the people who do not use external prompts (like stickies) do: they have habits that kick in with not-so-evident prompts. They could be using something called an ‘action prompt’ or an ‘internal prompt’. I’m using the language of Tiny Habits because it’s helpful in this context.
Tiny Habits can teach you how to create habits of all kinds, whether you use external, action, or internal prompts. Tiny Habits prefers prompts that are actions (e.g. “After I put the toothbrush down then I will pick up the dental floss”). But internal prompts are perfectly viable (e.g. “When I feel the heat on my skin and the tension in my jaw, I will describe my inner emotions to myself as if I was listening to a good friend”).
You can understand cues and habits more in depth with contextual behavior analysis. CBA or a qualified professional can help us notice when we struggle to pay attention because of conditions like ADHD or anxiety. Something else that CBA can reveal is that, sometimes, we struggle to pay attention because we haven’t developed the mental information highways that can make our thoughts flow freely. Things like relational frame training can help us build those highways faster. Another option is to learn to think visibly (Harvard’s Project Zero) about our everyday life, so that we build dense information highways that we can later use in daily life.
Of course, the fact is that plenty of humans use external prompts deliberately to help them coordinate and remember things. There’s a reason Scrum boards and Kanban are so popular. There’s a reason calendar apps and Getting Things Done are so popular. There’s a reason many societies have daily, weekly, or yearly rituals. You’re among friends :)
We are normal, it’s the others who are weird
i have approximate knowledge of many things; accessing it without the right trigger may take a while though.
i know i know something but i have accepted that my brain will often only grant me access days later in a completely unrelated situation 🤷🏼♂️
You ADHD? I was almost 40 before I learned about inattentive type ADHD. As far as I knew, ADHD was spastic kids that couldn’t sit still. Since I was more of the daydream and fall asleep type, I never would have thought I was part of that crowd.
Pretty sure, yes.
I’m over 40 and i’ve had this and many other symptoms my entire life.
No official diagnose though; but this 160 questions-test for example says i’m pretty high up there: https://www.adxs.org/en
I’m also the daydream and fall asleep type ☺️
Undiagnosed adults club!
Genuinely. This is sadly how my memory works. It’s gotten better since I had a partner who I would talk to everyday with the inane question, “so how was your day?”
Then suddenly I had to learn how to summarize recent aspects of my life.
And then you’re like, “shit, that happened to me today? shouldn’t I be angry about that?”Singing to me the song of my people. Where you all at?!
Omg, this is me. I thought I was alone. I love all you people in this thread, FAM!
Same
At Easter, my family had a tradition where Easter Bunny left notes telling us where the next set of eggs were and we’d follow a trail of clues around the house. I thought everyone did it that way
Maybe your family started early with explaining data structures, and this was their introduction to linked lists. Did you also have some family holiday featuring a red/green tree?
Yes, where everyone gives duct tape and the traditional holiday greeting is “keep your stick on the ice.”
Well played
I don’t celebrate Easter. What do people do if not that?
My understanding is they usually just hide eggs around the house or yard and search, what was unusual was Easter Bunny giving us notes telling us where to look
yes, this is how we did it, only we lived in an apartment where there were only so many possible hiding places, so it was never an enormous challenge in later years :D
Apparently, it isn’t normal to just space out during a test. Yeah, I went through K-12, undergrad, and grad school with an undiagnosed learning disability. This was only one of the symptoms…
wait, it isn’t normal?
I’ve never been diagnosed with a learning disability and I would often space out sometimes during a test. The brain gets tired and needs a break/reset before going back to the task. Now, if it was constant or for long periods of time, maybe that’s different? I’m not a doctor and this person didn’t specify.
I don’t know if this counts, but when I was little I’d go to friends houses, then later in high school to my first serious girlfriends house, and I remember their families were like… loving? I loved spending time with at my girlfriends house especially, hanging out with her Mom and her Dad even if my gf wasn’t there. They were so nice, and you could tell had genuine affection for their children (and to some degree, me). I miss you Mr. and Mrs. Miller!
Heh that was my experience too. But I grew up with a single parent who spent all his time working, so most people’s childhoods weren’t spent climbing 5 floors of scaffolding for fun
Met my partner and was astounded by her loving family
That’s me. I had no idea other families were affectionate and said crazy stuff like, “I love you.” My god, they even hug.
To this day I struggle with affection, even though I love it. If you touch me unexpectedly I’ll involuntarily flinch. I don’t mind, at all, but I still jerk and can’t help it.
I think my family was the same but I turned out cuddly, maybe the difference was the cats?
I skateboard mongo and was surprised to learn that I’m basically a mutant and shouldn’t be able to interact with others like normal people.
mongo gives you a ton of control on the back wheel, ignore the haters
I thought you meant goofy style and had to look it up. Haven’t seen opinions go entirely one way like that on internet forums before. Good luck mutant!
Worst one in the thread lol get outta here
My family was super meat-centric for all holidays except Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Any meal where it’s physically possible to barbecue, we would. And a family barbecue meant hamburgers, hot dogs, chicken, pork steaks, and beef steaks – one of each per person, plus a couple of extras. Sides were German-style slaw and potato salad. Buns were not included, but my grandma would always put a stack of white bread on the table (she was the only person who ever ate it).
When I started dating my husband and took him to a family holiday, he was shocked by the fact that my whole family was eating hamburgers and hot dogs with flatware instead of on buns. And he was actually sad at the lack of side dishes.
When I went to one of his family barbecues, I was sad that there was just one hamburger per person (already on a soggy bun) and a ton of weird casseroles.
That democracy would result in truth and national interest instead of Israel/US empire maximal warmongering lies.
What the fuck is “Israel/US empire” supposed to be?
Israel has significant influence over US empire. Neocon movement is fully overlapped by zionist supremacism and their middle east war plans/actions. US empire does have some independence from Israel over warmongering lies meant to target Russia and China.
But democracy under US empire serves only US empire, which was the big surprise factor.
We haven’t had democracy since the Dimpled Chad incident
Sharing socks. My family used to have a sock basket next to our shoes. You didn’t own your own socks, you just grab a pair when you need them.
I mentioned “the sock basket” offhand to a friend in elementary school and she thought it was crazy. That’s when I learned that not every family has a community sock basket. Looking it up though, I find a couple reddit threads from people with the same experience (and people replying that it’s weird) 🤷♀️This is unintentionally how we do it. We split up the socks after cleaning them but like a day later mom is wearing the oldest ones socks and the oldest one is wearing dads socks, and the little one has one sock from the older brother and another he found under the couch buried in dog hair.
Same same.
Don’t you have different sized feet?
This was the first thing I thought of. I wonder what percentage of households consist of members who all have the same foot size? That’s got to be abnormal. What, do the 5 year olds suddenly sprout size-12 feet? They don’t wear socks before then?
This story sounds utterly suspicious.
~50% of men probably wear a size 9-11 shoe
That’s a “Large” sock
Man with a size 8 shoe could probably still wear a “Large” sock and be fine.
~75% of women wear a size 7-9
Women with 6 or 6.5 should still be able to wear a 7-9 sized sock.
Families have genetically similar feet
I know from my experience, my father, my brother, and I all wear the same size. We all had different preferences and our own socks, but I could have easily worn their socks.
Yeah it’s definitely more reasonable than maybe it seems.
As kids we had pretty similarly sized feet. And I don’t think I noticed if the socks I was wearing were too big or too small anyway, even now I have some socks that are bigger or smaller than others.
And my parents had their own socks, so the sock basket was just for me and the sibs.
It seems easy, until you walk a mile in their socks.
We had a sock basket when I was a kid!
wait that’s not normal?
Well, in my mid-40s, this is a new one. As long as they’re clean and fit, why not?
Are socks ever clean enough? Would you do this with underwear, and why not?
Why wouldn’t they be? I would assume that socks only go in the family sock basket after going through the washer/dryer.
You wash your clothes? I just put them in a room with a scented candle. /s
Maybe not entirely closely related but your comment reminded me of this: https://youtube.com/shorts/y0ja9zYBMPE
We used to do it as well at least for me and my brothers. We all got the same white tube socks so they went in the same basket by our laundry
My daughters share school socks, because they are all the same colour and shape. So I guess this concept isn’t too unreasonable to do it on a whole family level.
Watching porn to get relief.
I – as many other guys in this society – learned to watch porn at a young age. So I wired sexual stimulation as well as the dopamine release after orgasm to porn. For many years of my life, I would not masturbate without it.
I denied my addiction because everyone watches porn, right? Also I thought, being addicted to porn means sitting at home all day fapping and watching more and more perverse stuff. So I can’t be addicted, if I watch porn once a week, right?
Well, it took me a long time to figure all that out. The society having such a positive attitude towards porn did not help. Maybe, we all are addicted. I think it’s super fucked up. If not due to the effect it has on our brains, then at least due to the humiliation of women for capital.
My brother-in-law grew up thinking everyone had three sets of grandparents. His mother’s parents were divorced and each remarried
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That’s interesting, for most people the brain just substitutes in the image of where your eye moves to, so it feels instantaneous. (there’s no noticeable blindness) But you can see throughout the full movement?
In a similar vein, I never understood having a “dominant eye”. I honestly don’t really understand the concept, I guess most people’s brains will cancel out information from one eye?
My eyes still focus automatically (though a bit slow sometimes). But if I want to, I can get my eyes out of focus pretty easily.
Yeah I can defocus my eyes too, I assume most people can. I’ve never heard of someone being able to see during saccades though.
Ah sorry I forgot there was another part of that comment when i read your reply lol
- Hold out your arm at arm’s length
- Make a circle with your thumb and index finger
- Look through the circle at an object on the other side of the room -Now slowly bring the circle back to your eye, such that your fingers never obscure the object, and it’s always centered in the circle
Which eye did your circle arrive at?
!That’s your dominant eye!<
I’ve heard of this test before, and it makes no sense to me. If I focus on a distant object, I see two images of my hand, one for each eye. So I’d have to choose which one to put over the object.
What? I think most people see them together. Do you have to consciously compare the two images to perceive depth?
Not at all, I perceive depth fine.
If I focus back on my hand, the two images align, and I see both images of the background. It’s just that I’m always seeing information from both eyes.
If anything, from my perspective it’s everyone else who I would expect to have difficulties with depth perception. You’re only perceiving one eye consciously, (In the binocular overlap region), and the other eye is just used for depth information by your subconscious, is that correct?
No the brain does funky stuff mixing the pictures together. If I move something close enough to my face it appears in view twice seemingly semi-transparent. The rest of my visual perception remains unaffected though.
Are you also constantly aware of your blind spot(s)? (Something that with the single image is completely invisible)
TIL that my nose is my dominant eye! (I think I’m not doing something correctly.)
You might think that but the brain is great at ‘in-betweening’, do the stopwatch Libet test and see what you get
Also, apparently some people can’t consciously control the focus distance of their eyes.
It’s a sailboat!
A schooner is a sailboat, stupid head.
Also, apparently some people can’t consciously control the focus distance of their eyes.
This was a surprise for me as well as a child. I thought my eyes would change in how they look when I made them blurry, but yeah, you can’t see that.
Also, apparently some people can’t consciously control the focus distance of their eyes.
TIL that some people can’t do that. huh
When I was much younger: that normal people could see much further than me.
One of my oldest memories is going into a McDonald’s for the first time with glasses; I stopped and read the entire menu, because I couldn’t believe normal people could read it as soon as you walked in. I always had to get up to the counter to make it out.
I got a lot better in school after that!
